The hard truth about healing
You'll skip this too unless you're ready.
The most courageous thing you can ever do is be honest with yourself.
This is a piece of my mind and you'd be doing yourself a favor if you read this to the end. However, if you're not ready to face the harsh truth, maybe save it for later or leave this tab open.
Healing is a core part of life. Whether you like it or not, you can plan your life in a certain direction and life will do its thing regardless of how well you plan. It's not you, it's life.
Most people will experience healing the same way they experience life—self-discovery.
Every connection, interaction, relationship, disconnect, and realignment opens you up to something new. The challenge here is that our minds have been conditioned to only see the what doesn't align with our expected outcome. So we label everything that doesn't go according to plan as a loss when they are often lessons, new knowledge, or a different directive for redirection.
Perception is a key difference between those who seem to lead a life of peace and ease at almost every phase in their lives and those who always worry.
Not everyone has the same capacity for perception. Most people won't see themselves at the depth you see them. Many people don’t even believe in themselves, let alone trust that another person could believe in them. This keeps many stuck in the loop of “I'll never be enough.”
The hard truth
The worst thing you can do to yourself is to deceive yourself.
Nobody wants to intentionally lie to themselves, but it happens more often than not. That's the blurred line between endless grief and the path of healing.
Honesty is scary. Every ounce of courage you need to face who you are behind the appearance of whatever face you eventually decide to wear is difficult to reach, but those who reach that courage never regret it.
The people who suffer the most are those who refuse to be honest with themselves. - Janet Goh
For healing to have a solid place in your life, you need to be honest with yourself.
Who are you, really? Not who everyone else sees you as, but who you are when you're alone with those thoughts nobody else thinks you think of.
Why are you here, right now? What choices and decisions led you to where you are right now? It's not about where you are, but what brought you there. There are no right or wrong answers for this one, just clarity.
Do you really want to heal or have your burdens taken away? If you see what it takes, all it requires to face that person you almost can’t recognize in the mirror, what will you do? Deny that person (You), or hold their hand as you walk them into healing and recovery?
No pressure. It doesn't have to happen overnight even though it'll be great if it does.
Here’s the thing, before you leave this planet, and maybe sooner than later, wake up.
Sleep is cool, but you don't have to keep sleeping on yourself.
As much as you want to heal, maybe you're not ready yet. And that's okay, too. But know that wanting something isn't enough to make it happen. A granddad I know once said these words to me; you can't help someone who wants help but isn't ready to help themselves.
It sounded a bit harsh then but it's the hard truth. Be honest with yourself concerning everything in life and it'll become easier to understand, love, forgive, and be kind to yourself.
Honestly, I'm not feeling myself so I'll leave this here while I go have a conversation with myself. 💛
Honesty is often obfuscated with justifications for the current, and promises of the future.
The pain of honesty is difficult - yet, is a simple calculation.
Where are you as a person today?
Where do you want to be or feel you should be?
The difference between the two is the amount of pain you are going to feel until you start walking the path of honesty, healing and change.
Great illustrating pictures! 🙏😊