Recovering from a relapse

Healing is not a linear journey.

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You are not alone if you feel overwhelmed by a setback or relapse in your healing and recovery journey. Having made some progress, finding yourself in a similar situation with reactions or responses identical to what you are healing from can be a lot to bear.

These relapses can discourage you from continuing your healing journey because they can be a reminder of the person you never want to be again. It can be so painful. However, healing and recovery are not a linear journey. Every day will not be as easy or smooth as the best days. What matters is the recovery after a relapse.

If you are wondering why relapse occurs, know this. You are human and prone to mistakes, crave familiar things/places, and habits are always tough to replace. Certain words, actions, places, and things can trigger your brain to mimic reactions from previously similar situations which trigger a relapse. That does not mean you have failed in your healing journey. I understand the guilt of letting yourself and your loved ones down can be overwhelming. Let this guilt be transformed into something good.

You are healing, and your journey will have its ups and downs, an attempt to do something positive toward your healing and recovery journey every day is more important than trying to do 100% every day and burnout. Most times, this is all it takes.

You can recover from a relapse.

It is not impossible to recover. When you relapse, the first thing that matters is your awareness of it and the triggers. During my recent relapse, I discovered what could trigger a relapse.

• Heightened stress,

• Emotional triggers,

• Sudden change in familiar behavior,

• Absence of coping mechanisms, and other factors.

I was once again reminded of the importance of solid social support and how important reminding your loved ones that you are safe to be vulnerable with can be helpful. Long-term recovery cannot be done alone, so seeking help from people or groups who are not judgemental helps.

While knowing and avoiding your triggers, setting boundaries, open communication, and seeking help when it becomes overwhelming are effective ways to recover from relapse, rebuilding trust after a relapse is an essential part of long-term recovery.

You can rebuild trust after a relapse, but it is a gradual process that requires honesty, consistency, and open communication. It may be difficult, but acknowledging the impact of your actions on your loved ones will not make your nose bleed or make you less of a person. Be transparent about your progress, setbacks, and commitment to preventing future relapse. Your trust will gradually be restored when you keep your promises, maintain healthy boundaries, and practice patience.

In all honesty, it can be challenging to deal with someone who suffers a relapse. Emphasizing your belief in their ability to heal and recover can go a long way to help them. It is also helpful to approach with empathy and understanding. Listen without judgment, offer unconditional support, and encourage them to seek professional support.

I have suffered a relapse and it is not fun. It can discourage you from further steps in your healing and recovery journey, but you will not sabotage yourself. You will reflect on the situation, discover the triggers, connect with a support system, and communicate openly and effectively to avoid the triggers and better position yourself for your journey.

One setback will not stop your journey to peace of mind and positive mental health.

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